Dear Younger Brittney — November 15, 2016

Dear Younger Brittney

Dear Younger Brittney,

I know things seem impossible right now but trust me it gets better. Let me share a few things with you that are going to make it seem a little more bearable.

Stop trying to make everyone happy before yourself. Believe it or not you deserve happiness just as much as the next person. Do you and make your life that much more memorable.

Friends come and go. Don’t worry about the ones that walk away, they’re not worth your time anyways. You’re going to find your small group of friends that are going to have your back through thick and thin. Cherish them. They’re going to help you get through the toughest times in your life.

No matter how scary love seems, let yourself fall. And when you do fall in love (and I know you will) love deeply. Trust me, it’ll hurt like hell when you lose your first love but the time you spent with him will be some of the best memories you’ve ever had. Enjoy every second of love.

Speaking of love, don’t shut yourself off from it once you lose your first true love. Let yourself be open to another relationship. Flirt a little, have fun with a guy. Who knows, he could turn out to be the one. But if he’s not, know that there are plenty of fish in the sea. You’ll find the right guy, but be picky about him. You deserve more than you give yourself credit for.

Laugh often. Travel to places you only imagine right now that you can. The world is at your fingertips. Let loose, go crazy (but not too crazy), and have fun. Life is way too short to live under that rock you’re putting yourself under. You’ll find your way. It may not be as perfectly as you imagine it but it’s going to be fantastic.

Love yourself and stay true to yourself and everything will turn out the way it should.

Love,

Older Brittney

Story Time: My First Drunk Experience — November 9, 2016

Story Time: My First Drunk Experience

I want to start a new part of my blog where I share stories from my life. They can be funny, stupid, or damn right heartbreaking. I’m going to use it as a way to look back on experiences that I might not otherwise remember (or choose to remember..). So today I’m going to bring you my first drunk experience.

Let me put out a big disclaimer that I’m 24 years old and completely legal to drink. This story occurred last weekend, not when I was an underage drinker and I am in no way condoning underage drinking. Now onto the story…

I’ll be the first to admit that I had probably the most boring high school and college experience. I didn’t really go to parties, I never had time in college to go out to clubs, and even though I drank I never got drunk. I’ve been tipsy, I’ve felt good but I never woke up with my head spinning and never wanting to drink again…until this past weekend.

My friend from college, Sarah, is big on going out and having a great time. I’ve always wanted to do that and now was the perfect opportunity. I’m single, I don’t have obligations to study or anything for school, and I was off the weekend from work. We decided to go out to our state’s capitol and live it up. It was my dream come true. I was finally going to experience what everyone else has. I like to consider myself to have a decently high tolerance for alcohol since I’ve never been drunk (and girl can kill a bottle of wine like it’s her job). Well the drinks started flowing and the shots were poured and before I knew it I was feeling pretty good. We were dancing and singing and enjoying ourselves so we kept drinking. I was having a great time..until I wasn’t.

Next thing I knew I was walking myself to the bathroom and right before I got there I was throwing up. I don’t mean a little throw up I mean the nasty kind where you feel like death after. I made it to the bathroom to throw up again. I finally started feeling a tiny bit better to where I could try and find my friend. I ended up calling for my Uber and leaving. I knew the night wasn’t going to end well and I just wanted to get home. I found my Uber and pretty much as soon as we started moving I threw up again. Luckily I was able to control it enough so that I didn’t get it on his car (who needs an additional fee??). I made it home and thought that would be it, I must have thrown up everything right? WRONG!

I was able to sleep for a few hours but then I woke up feeling sick again. So I threw up again, and again, and again. Grand total of 8 times. I felt miserable, had to bail on my dad for Sunday dinner, and wanted to curl up in a ball and die. My few hours of fun turned into an entire day of being miserable and not trusting myself anymore. How could I have let myself drink this much? How could I have let it get this far to the point where I spent the entire day sick? Did I do this because I’m still getting over all the changes in my life? These will be questions that I ask myself for awhile as I still try to process everything, but I am slowly moving on from the experience.

Now I don’t take this story with a grain of salt and I hope that at least one person can learn from my mistake. I now know my limits. I know that I like going out but that I don’t need to get completely trashed to have a good time with my friends. The next time I go out I have no intentions of getting the way I did this past weekend. I want everyone who thinks that you need to get plastered to have a good time to know that it’s not worth it. As much fun as I had, the aftermath ruined it for me. It’s not worth it. Sure, go out and have a good time. If you’re old enough to drink have one or two (don’t drink and drive!). You don’t have to get to the point that I did to have a good time or to fit in with your friends. Remember that. They’re your friends for more than your drinking abilities. Party safely and have fun, my friends.

Getting Back Out There — November 3, 2016

Getting Back Out There

I’ll be the first to say that I am not the most outgoing person on this planet. I’m shy, I make awkward conversation, and I never really know what to talk about. So when I finally got to a place where I was interested in getting back out there after the break up I was kind of at a loss. I don’t know how to talk to guys, I haven’t had to since I was 17! Life isn’t like the movies where you walk up to a stranger and instantly hit it off (or maybe it is for some people..). That’s why I wanted to talk about getting back out there and how to feel more comfortable and confident while doing it.

  1. Talk to people from your past: This might be weird for some people if bringing up history isn’t something you’re into. For me, however, I’ve always had a “what if” feeling in the back of my head about one guy in particular from my past. Luckily for me, he’s still single (not sure how but I’ll take it!). Like I’ve said in other update posts we haven’t done anything but talk but we definitely picked up right where we left off. This makes me feel more comfortable having conversations with him (especially those conversations). I’m naturally a flirty person and having someone I know and am comfortable with to flirt with makes the whole process easier.
  2. Don’t be afraid to talk yourself up: Any accomplishment you’ve made is something to be proud of, so boast a little bit! It’ll give you something to talk about and gives you a nice confidence boost. You worked your ass off for your achievements, don’t keep them all bottled up to yourself.
  3. Use dating apps: If you’re not comfortable going up to strangers in a bar (like me) use dating apps to meet new people. Sure, you’re going to get your fair share of creeps on any app that you use but the beauty of it is you don’t have to answer them. I’ve started using Tinder and Bumble (I know, I’m slow getting on the bandwagon) and I’ve talked to some nice guys. No one I ever met up with but it was a good way to get myself back into the dating scene.
  4. Always have a wingman/girl: I don’t mean this in the way most people use it. I mean have someone with you if you are meeting a person from a dating app in person. I’ve gone with my friends more times than I can count when they’ve met with people and it not only makes them more comfortable (even though I’m extremely uncomfortable) but it makes sure that they’re safe (again with the creeps..). The last thing you want is for you or one of your friends to go alone and have something happen.

Getting back out there is hard, especially if you’ve been out of the game for awhile. Hopefully these tips will help you have a little more confidence. Always trust your instincts and go with your gut.

If you have any tips or suggestions leave them in the comments below, I’d love to hear them!

Saving Money After College — November 1, 2016

Saving Money After College

It’s not really a surprise that college kids are typically dirt poor. That doesn’t change after you graduate, if anything you’re more stressed out about money because your student loans are going to go into repayment. Now grads, those blessed 6 month grace period will be the best time before you start selling your soul to the government to repay those loans.

I’ll be the first to admit that I’m scared like no other about repaying my loans and all my other bills now that my grace period is over. I’ve been scared since I received my diploma. I’m going to share how I’ve been trying to save money to help make this transition into being an actual adult a little easier on my anxiety.

Let me preface this by saying that I was extremely fortunate enough to graduate with an amazing job where I make a decent paycheck. This isn’t to brag but to put into perspective how my tips might not be realistic for everyone if you’re still job hunting. There’s no shame in it, don’t get discouraged. Now onto the tips…

  1. Put money aside each week: No matter how much it is, try to put at least something into savings. Each paycheck I get (which is biweekly) I make sure I instantly take money and put it into savings. That way I know I won’t be touching it or factoring it into the money I have available for bills. This will give you some backup when you have to start paying back loans incase you’re short a little bit one month.
  2. Pay your bills on time: This might seem like a no brainer but sometimes you’re short. It doesn’t help that some companies (like cellphone..) will let you keep using their services even if you haven’t paid the bill, they’ll just tack on an obnoxious late fee which makes paying the bill when you can that much more difficult. Just pay your bills!
  3. Use coupons, apps, etc: This has been a life saver for me. I’m not huge on couponing but I am OBSESSED with target’s cartwheel app and ibotta. Cartwheel allows me to scan items that I’m already buying at target and see if there’s a deal on them. Pair that up with target’s RED card where you save an additional 5% and you can seriously rack up the savings. Ibotta is an app that I always check after I go shopping to see if I’ve purchased any items that will get me instant rebates. You just have to scan the product and then upload your receipt and you’re done! They also run promotions that add additional savings to your account which can be loaded onto a paypal account and sent to your checking or savings account. Saving money with buying stuff you already need!
  4. Find other ways to make some extra cash: This can come in many different ways. Maybe you have a blog that you can make some extra cash off of (mine isn’t there..ha!) Maybe you have a youtube channel that you can get sponsorship from to make some money. My ways of making extra cash isn’t that adventurous. Ever since I got my license at 17 my dad has always told me how stupid it is for people not to return their cans and bottles. In my state we pay 5 cents for every can and bottle which can be redeemed if you return the bottles. When I got my license I was always looking for ways to get gas money and this was one of the ways. You don’t get a lot of money back in one go but everything adds up. I save all my loose change as well and bring it to my bank to change it out into cash. Find something you’re into and try to make some extra money in the process of enjoying yourself.
  5. Try and make payments on loans before they go into repayment: This is where things can get tricky for some new grads. I’ve been lucky enough where I’ve been able to put some money towards each loan I have (and I have a TON of debt) from each paycheck. Looking at the account it doesn’t seem like it’s helping since I still have a giant amount of debt but it would be that much higher if I hadn’t been making these early payments.

These are just a few things that have helped me save some money after college. I still have times where I feel like I’m struggling to make it all work (and that’s with living with my mom and not having to pay rent anymore) but it’s a lot. Remember you’re not alone and it will get better. Share any tips you have for saving money in the comments!