Maintaining College Friendships After College — August 31, 2017

Maintaining College Friendships After College

Now that classes are pretty much back in full swing I want to take the time to talk about college friendships. The 4 (or more) years you spend in college really will be some of the best, and worst, times of your life. You grow more than you ever could expect while in college. You realize things about you that you never would have imagined before. With all of this you make some of the best friends you could ever ask for. These are the friends who understand completely what you’re going through (especially if you’re the same majors). These are the friends that you cry with, laugh with, drink heavily with, etc. The friends that you made in high school are great but your college friends are really your ride or die. That’s why it’s so important to keep in contact with these friends post graduation. Here are some of the tips I have for maintaining friendships after college.

-Make sure you meet up with them at least once a month if it’s possible. Now I understand that people move and things change but put in the effort and go out for lunch or dinner or drinks.

-Continue to tell them everything about your life just like you did when you were skipping classes. Along with that, make sure you stay interested in their lives. Ask about their boyfriends, their job, their family.

-Plan a trip together. This doesn’t have to be a crazy expensive vacation but a long weekend away from everything that’s part of your everyday life is the greatest way to stay connected. Megan and I have made it a goal to do a weekend trip at least 4 times a year, just to get away and gossip like the little girls that we think we still are.

-Text them. It might seem stupid to say but shoot them a text every now and then to see how things are. Sometimes a text can change how a person’s day is going. It’s the little things.

These are just some of the ways that I think you can keep up those friendships that helped you get that degree you worked so hard for. Keep your friends close, you never know when you’re going to need them the most.

The Moving On Process — August 12, 2017

The Moving On Process

I tend to talk about my love life a lot on here. It’s therapeutic for me to get what’s running through my head out somewhere for me to reflect on but not obsess over. What has been on my mind lately has been moving on. Let me explain.

I went out on a date on August 4th with a guy I had been talking to for a little bit on POF. We hit it off instantly, both through text and in person. The date went as great as a first date can go and I couldn’t wait to talk to him again. We’ve been talking ever since and I’ve seen him 3 times in a week. He’s so funny, so intelligent, so thoughtful and caring. We have a ton in common and he keeps me on my toes. He’s seemingly perfect for me.

I woke up this morning thinking that I’m really starting to like him. It’s driving me crazy that I don’t know what’s going through his head but that’s another story. I started thinking about how I have been so hung up on relationships and everything but never getting anywhere with them. For the first time I can see it happening. For the first time I actually have thought about completely moving on from Tyler. I’ve started referring to this as “the moving on process”.

Like I said, I’m not really sure how this guy is feeling so this thought process could all be one sided but it’s refreshing to have this thought at all. I never thought I would get there. I figured I’d always be hung up on Tyler forever. Don’t get me wrong he’s always going to hold a special place in my heart but if something were to happen with this guy I wouldn’t have any question in my mind about it. Has this happened to anyone before? Is it weird that it’s taken me over a year and a decent amount of dates for this to happen? I really feel like it’s a huge moment in my life as odd as that sounds.

Let me know your thoughts or share your stories if it’s happened to you!

How I Use My ECLP — August 7, 2017

How I Use My ECLP

I know I’ve been talking about it for awhile, and now I’m finally getting around to doing this post. I’m going to talk about how I use my Erin Condren Life Planner. I have a previous post about how I was using my Five Star planner that I got from Target and I still think that’s a great option if you’re not looking to spend the money for an Erin Condren.

This is my first ECLP and I have to say I’m a huge fan. I may not use it the most conventionally but it works for me. I bought my 2017-2018 Life Planner at the end of May I believe and it goes from July 2017-July 2018. I’m sure all the planner addicts already know about all the ins and outs of the planner so I’m not going to go into detail. If you’re interested, there’s a ton of videos on YouTube that go into great detail about the new planner.

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This is my monthly spread. It’s pretty much the same I was doing in my other planner. I have different colored washi tape for bills and appointments. I write my work schedule and work related things in orange (I don’t have a yellow pen otherwise that would be it since I hate that color). I have important things (like this month Tyler’s birthday and my dad’s birthday) on decorative sticky tabs that I got from the target dollar section. On the side I have two yellow sticky boxes for my two different student loan payments. It sticks out to me and reminds me “HEY DOOFUS! Pay those loans this month!”. Pretty straight forward for a monthly spread and it helps keeps me organized.

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Now for my pride and joy, my weekly spreads. I’ve always obsessed over the planner decoration that people have done and the stickers and everything! Being the nearly broke grad that I am I can’t afford to spend money on kits so I’ve gotten creative. If you have pinterest you can search for free printables for the ECLP and BAM! Magic! I bought some sticker paper from staples and print the spreads as I need them. I find decorating my planner to be the most relaxing thing out there. No idea why but it calms me down like no other. So like all Erin Condren planners, this one is broken into the 3 sections which I use as “Today”, “To Do”, and “Work”.

Under the “Today” section I write down bills that are due, appointments, and any events (like the FGL concert next week!!!!).

Under “To Do” I use the cute heart check boxes and write out my daily to do lists. Like my other planner, if things don’t get done on it it’s not a deal breaker, or if I do things a day early it’s not going to ruin my life. I write everything in these checkboxes, even showering, because I get a sick satisfaction with checking things off no matter how small they are.

Under “Work” I put, you guessed it, my work schedule! I also put important things like when the schedule opens to pick up time and payday. I use fun washi tape to put a little more umph for my days off. I sometimes write little blurbs in the boxes like if I floated to another floor or if something insanely crazy happened just for memory purposes.

On the bottom bar I use more washi and put “B, L, D” for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I write down what I eat again just for reference. If I notice that I’m eating something a little too often I’ll try and reign that in and make a change.

The side bar I have a hydrate sticker to keep track of my water intake (I estimate this based on if I drink at least 1 of my water bottles which is 32oz). Under that I have another sticker from the target dollar section that says “Remember”. I use this to jot down any thoughts of feelings I have throughout the week. It can be about boys, work, my family, anything.

The last thing is the quote box. I typically google quotes about life or strength or love and write them out. I don’t have the neatest handwriting but right now it works for me.

So that’s how I’m using my ECLP. Like I said, it might not be everyone’s cup of tea but it works for me and that’s all that matters. If you have any interest in getting an ECLP or anything else on their site (and there’s a ton!) then here’s a REFERRAL LINK!¬†You’ll get $10 off your first purchase! Just know that I’ll get a little kick back from it too but it’s helping us both out!

Finding My Happiness Again — August 3, 2017

Finding My Happiness Again

I know it’s been a little while since I posted but I promise it has been for good reasons. I’ve been in a funk and I’ll be the first to admit it. I wasn’t really happy, I had my moments sure, but there were a lot of times where I was down and quite frankly somewhat depressed. I wasn’t happy with my living situation. I wasn’t happy with my financial situation. I wasn’t happy with my relationship situation. All of this was piling up on me and to be honest I didn’t feel like writing about anything. I’ve always said that this blog is more so therapeutic for me as it is anything else. That’s why I’m making myself blog again today. I’m determined to find my happiness again.

I’ll start with my living situation. This is something that right now I can’t really change. I’m not thrilled about living under my mom’s roof again. I don’t like having to tell her where I’m going or who I’m going with. I spent a good part of my adult life being able to come and go as I please and this is something that I’m just not used to. My brother is a complete nightmare most of the time and we really just don’t get along. How am I getting my happiness back in this aspect? I’m doing everything possible to make my goal of being able to move out in the next year a reality. It may not be the best apartment or anything but I’ll be on my own again.

My financial situation goes hand in hand with my living situation. I have a lot of student loan debt. I also like going out with my friends which involves spending money. Add that on top of my regular bills and you can see where money stresses me out. I don’t want to feel like I have to deprive myself in order to sustain any amount of money. I’m trying to find my happiness with this situation in a not always happy way. I’m picking up more overtime hours at work. This is hard because the hospital is in a lot of debt and there isn’t a lot of OT to be had but where I can I am picking it up. I’m hoping this will help me be able to stay afloat while still being about to pay my bills and have fun like a 25 year old should. I do have to work on some of my spending habits and I am. I’ll get there, it just might be a slow start.

Finally my relationships. I mean this with friends as well as guys. I’ll start with friends. Megan and I have been iffy for awhile now. She’s been my best friend for 22 years and I don’t want to lose her but we’re at very different places in life. She doesn’t understand that I can’t be her personal shuttle to places and she needs to get her license. I can’t always be paying concert tickets with her promising to pay me back and then she never does. I’ve started having some hard conversations with her about it and so far I think it’s working, kind of. We have a long way to go but I’m hoping we’ll figure this out. As for guys I’ve spent probably the last month trying to figure out Tyler and I think I have. For now, I’m going to be more than okay with just being best friends with him. I need to realize that whatever happens, happens but there’s no rushing. We went to the beach last week and it was a good start to this for us. I hope it continues to go that way. With all that being said…I’ve been talking to a new guy I met on POF. I’m not ready to spill much of anything with him since we’ve only been texting but I’m meeting him tomorrow for dinner and I couldn’t be more excited. I have a fairly good feeling about him and that’s something I haven’t really felt with any of the guys I’ve talked to. I’ll keep everyone posted.

So there’s a recap of where I’ve been for the past however long I’ve been gone. Nothing overly exciting or new but it was something that made me realize I need to take a break and work through my issues and concerns. I’m nowhere near completely happy but I’m getting there and I’m happy to be back!